The Truth About Lying

 

How many times a day does someone lie? What reasons or situations warrant a lie to be told, if any? Judith Viorst expounds on what kind of lies are told in her article, “The Truth About Lying”. From social and peace-keeping lies to protective and trust-keeping lies, the reader can identify with one or more example at any time. The article is written in an informal style and a tone of indecisive opinion. The arguments presented display a hint of logos, a hint of ethos, and the claim that the practice of lying is used in everyday life is visible through examples and interviews.

This article has a laid-back feel, as if being sent among friends. My interpretation of this styling while reading is brought on by its rough draft feel. The grammatical errors that are present made me think that if I were to tell the author that this was an easy read grammatically, I would be guilty of telling a “protective” lie. The way Viorst cannot give a clear position on her thoughts of lying further shows the informal style of her writing. She states in the beginning that she “…can’t present any ultimate conclusions,” while in the end she agrees with a friend of hers who says, “though others may completely accept the lie I’m telling, I don’t.” The reader is likely to feel the same indecisiveness as they read the article through mutual moral connection.

When thinking of how and why people lie, a logical point of view should take place. Some people lie effortlessly all the time, while others are more methodic in their lie. Viorst gives clear examples that are used in every day scenarios to prove her claim. Interviews of friends also help her present her claim. When Viorst references the opinions of her friends, the informal styling gives a logos argument in that it makes one think if they have used that lie or if they have been in a similar situation that might warrant a lie.

The ethos argument is strengthened throughout this article when an interviewee is against lying for any reason. The moral compass is pointing North when the reasoning behind being against lying is comprehended. One reasoning that is presented is that “it destroys your credibility.” Most of the arguments that are presented for each type of lie look like that. Even when an example of agreeing with lying is presented, the ethos appeal is strong. This showcase of how easy it is to lie and why it’s done affects the moral and ethical side.

Many references of other participants in this questionnaire help the article. Getting the view from regular people that have no real ties or contributions to the topic can help the reader connect better. The interviewees used were very candid in their response. The overall feel of the paper was authentic. The article was eye-opening and truthful.

 

Is Social Media Ruining Your Relationship?

Relationships are not formed the same way in 2017 as they were in 1967. Fifty years ago, a man saw a woman that he liked, he approached her, and asked her out on a proper date. Today, there are dating apps that allow one to swipe left or right, chat via text message, and meet up somewhere. Based on someone finding a hookup, let alone love, online makes it safe to say that social media and technology will be the first source of communication they go to if they did not meet in person before it all began. While social media may help some relationships, many relationships have fallen apart by its devices. Thus, I propose that social media negatively affects relationships by taking attention away from the other partner, lessening communication skills, and creates unhealthy relationships.

How many times have you gone to a restaurant with a friend and they were on the phone the entirety of dinner? Feelings of neglect creep in, and then you are mad because whatever is happening on their phone is more important than your time and conversation. The New York Post has a name for this new phone addiction: “phubbing.” “Phubbing” takes place “when conversation is interrupted by attention being given to a smartphone rather than the person you’re with” (Matthews). The amount of times that this could possibly take place in a day would cause tension in any relationship; especially for people whose primary love language is quality time. Quality time is tainted and no longer feels like quality time when one person is always in their phone. Many arguments are started due to one person feeling like they are being neglected or they come second to a phone. Jimmy Rohampton, a Forbes contributor, wrote that a survey from the Pew Research Center showed that “18% of respondents between 18-29 also added that they previously had serious arguments over their partner’s obsession with spending time online.” Thus, intimacy suffers, emotions suffer, and communication suffer.

A breakdown in communication takes place when one partner would rather resolve an issue via text message than face to face. While it might be easier for that person to collect their thoughts by writing it out, the other person may feel disrespected because in the heat of the moment, they had to wait for a response to come later. No more are the days of sitting in the car having a conversation for hours. Now, there is a phone in everyone’s hand to fill the void of no communication. Social media has become a platform, in some respects, for people to air their dirty laundry, emotions, and feelings instead of talking to people face to face. Even more so, expressing everything on social media warrants people giving their opinion when they don’t know the whole story. Communication is a vital part of any relationship. Building communication should be at the forefront of every relationship. When there is one person not willing to work on communication, it negatively affects the forward progress of the relationship.

Social media has it set up that there is an option to direct message others or privately message someone. This feature has been known to break up relationships due to the capability of keeping secrets. If there are trust issues already present, having the option to private message someone can fuel the fire of infidelity and mistrust. When there is a breakdown in communication and someone is not being honest, relationships suffer. Extramarital affairs are started through social media, whether physical or emotional. People can live a double life on social media, which can lead to problems in the real-world relationship. Lies are being told to loved ones and continue until the day of reckoning. Trust is broken, lives are destroyed. It is a vicious cycle.

Unhealthy relationships can be formed due to over usage of social media. On one hand, you have one partner that feels neglected; on the other hand, you have a partner that may deal with loneliness or insecurities that cause them to look to social media for validation. Some people look at social media to answer the unasked questions about relationships. When people posts relationship goals, a different type of jealousy sets in. If a relationship doesn’t amount to what they see in a post, one partner might make the relationship unrealistic and awkward in their attempt to match what they saw. This action is unhealthy in that one will devote their energy into creating a Facebook worthy post than into creating memories with the one they love.

Social media is a great tool that can strengthen a relationship if used correctly and appropriately. Sharing a post that genuinely expresses love and emotion can build a relationship. Having the conversation about how much time is spent on social media and how to incorporate more quality time can be beneficial. Making sure that the lines of communication are open, honesty is taking place and face to face communication will help build a relationship. Using technology and social media to come together is not always a bad thing if there is a clear understanding of what is expected. Love is a beautiful thing and social media does not have to ruin that.

 

 

 

Works Cited

Chapman, Gary. The Heart of The Five Love Languages. Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 2007.

Matthews, Kylie. New York Post. 12 June 2017. 27 June 2017.

Rohampton, Jimmy. “Millenials, Here’s How Social Media Impacts Your Relationships.” 3 May 2017. http://www.forbes.com. 27 June 2017.

Rhetorical Analysis: The Clan of One-Breasted Women

A woman’s journey in life is always met with many surprises. Author of “The Clan of One-Breasted Women,” Terry Tempest Williams, explicitly describes her personal experience of surprises. She argues that a clan of women battling breast cancer was formed because of where she lived. Williams starts strong with emotional appeals, and presenting facts from reputable sources to make ethical appeals. Her emotional appeal at the end strengthens her argument.

Williams immediately introduces her audience to the clan of one-breasted women in her opening statement. Mentioning her family history and religious roots allows her audience to feel connected to her and understand certain belief systems further in the reading. As she reminisces on her mother’s surgery and passing, memories are spoken of.  Williams gives a vivid account of the bombing that her father described which gives way to the revelation that she received at that moment. The government was responsible for this clan being formed.

Throughout her piece, Williams uses many strong sources to support her theory of the government being responsible for the rising number of cancer cases that strengthen her appeal to ethos. Newspaper articles, such as “The Day We Bombed Utah,” the “Irene Allen vs. the United States of America” lawsuit that was filed, town meetings and more are mentioned as reference points. She even uses her faith as a tool to support her belief of her theory. At one point, her faith challenges her reality which strengthens her appeal to ethos.

Adding to Williams’ strong appeal to pathos throughout her piece, she explicitly tells of a dream that she had that was very descriptive; almost as if it had taken place. Reciting the native song and dance, speaking of the town that these women walked through, how they were treated, and their response to the treatment, strengthens her appeal. Closing out her piece with the testimony of her protest, arrest and release restores the readers faith in humanity.

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“How It Feels to Be Colored Me”

 

How would you feel if one day you woke up and realized that you were no longer who you thought you were, but who everyone else knew you were? Author, Zora Neale Hurston, shares in the 1928 published writing, “How It Feels to Be Colored Me,” that while she is constantly being reminded that she is colored, she doesn’t live life by her race. Hurston gains credibility with personal narrative, and keeps the momentum towards the end of the writing by attempting to appeal to her audience’s emotional intellect by way of metaphor.

Throughout the paper, Hurston uses her personal narrative to appeal to pathos to build her argument. Her goal is not to make the reader feel sympathy, but hope and inspiration. When Hurston says that she is “not tragically colored,” or being reminded that she descends from slaves “fails to register depression,” she is turning what others view negatively into a positive. Her clear descriptions of being in the jazz club with white people and her mind wandering to the feeling of the music… “he has only heard what I felt,” shows that music has no color. Before closing out, her word choice evokes a since of pride: “My country, right or wrong.” Throughout her paper, she does not claim that race does not exist or that she doesn’t see the flaws of the world she lives in; she chooses to embrace everything that comes with life and try to find happiness at the end.

Hurston continues her pathos appeal through the end of her paper by using a metaphor to inspire hope for the future. She views herself as a “brown bag of miscellany” that later transcends to everyone being a bag. The momentum is kept through the end because she causes the reader to think about us all being a bag full of “jumble” that can be put together and “the bags refilled without altering the content of any greatly.” Closing the argument with a logo appeal makes the reader feel emotion and think critically about the present and the future.

In conclusion, Hurston started her writing strong, followed through and finished strong by motivating her audience to look outside of the negative and find all the positives that will lead to living a free life. The pathos appeal was consistent through every narrative and metaphor. Readers can see the passion and emotion throughout every line. Hurston did a great job of driving home her argument.